No matter how large or small of a wedding you are planning, at some point after your first draft, you will realize you have far too many people on the list then you want. So whom do you decide to cut when the numbers simply get too high? Here’s a quick guide to navigating the politics of the guest list.
Negotiating with parents considering the guest list may be quite the headache. You haven’t seen Great Aunt Susie in twenty years, but you still have to invite her? Whether your parents are contributing towards paying for the wedding may give them varying degrees of bargaining power on this front. Even then, be honest with them about what you truly want.
Along with family, the work place can be a stressful source of guest list frenzy. Depending on your company atmosphere, you may or may not feel obliged to invite your boss or co-workers. If you never see them outside of work, it may be simpler just to have “a no-coworkers” rule.
Another option to cut down the numbers is to make the wedding an “over-18” affair. To do this, first inform family and close friends of the decision so that they can spread the word. On the invitations, only list the name of the adults, “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith”, as opposed to “The Smiths”. Remember, above all, that this is you and your man’s day and you are never REQUIRED to invite anybody.